So many couples are asking this question. They didn't sign up for ugly conflict, financial stress, sexual problems, affairs or parenting nightmares. While the marriage vows are spoken at the altar, most of us are just waiting for the kiss and the party. We celebrate the kiss and the party because it's appropriate and necessary to honor life and love this way. We quietly grieve because we are aware that disillusionment, hardship and fear will test the limits of their love. They won't become gods. They will never complete each other or fully give unconditional love to one another though they strive with all their might. Their relationship will always demand more than what they can give. They will be asked to adapt, to yield to each other, to soften their angry voices, to soothe, reassure. They will be taken down paths that lead them far away from the dreams that once inspired them. They will wrestle with God himself and get an ass-whooping instead of a blessing. Is marriage worth it? While I have my own opinion, I covet your comments.