Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Transforming Your Conflict into Closeness
"Master Class" on the Oprah channel. Just for the record, I did not cry this time. Diane Sawyer was the featured guru, and her interview was fantastic. At one point, she was asked about how she managed to hold a marriage together during long seasons of travel and an intensive work schedule. To summarize, she talked about how she and her husband tried to turn their fights into "requests". Underneath every conflict is an unmet dream or desire of how things could be or should be. When we request something of our spouse instead of criticizing them, we open up the possibility for deeper emotional intimacy, and we can turn reactivity into responsiveness.